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Monday, 8 February 2010
How to have a happy Second Life (an experts opinion)




OMG, My devious imagination has been running wild and I have been trying to decide what to write about first. When you have been behaving for a while, it’s hard to get back into the swing of things and I get all muddled up wondering what to talk about first. I mentioned in my last column that I had met a lot of new people and a few older ones. I am now quite an experienced SL resident and I have lots of fun things to show the quieter, less extrovert people who live on the grid. Can I label myself an expert? Oh yes, I think I have definitely earned my label. With that in mind,I decided to tell you all a few things you will need to know for your Second Life that they don’t tell you at Orientation Island. I will do this in instalments over the next few weeks and if I think of any others or hear or see people talk shit, you will be the first to know. My first topic would have to be privacy and spying on the Grid. I prefer the term ‘COVERT OPS’ as opposed to ‘STALKING’. Seriously, there is a difference.

Just so you all know (for those of you who aren’t already familiar with me) I regularly help people with delicate issues they have in their Second Lives. I do this quietly, privately, efficiently and all in the name of good clean fun. That is not an invite for people to offload their sl relationship problems onto me. SL Marriage guidance counsellor I ain’t! I am not a psychotherapist either and you probably won’t appreciate my bluntness. State your case, but remember my shoulder is a tear free zone.

Just last week, a lady who I didn’t know, IM’d me and asked me for help with a problem she was having. The problem had two legs and a penis and I know this because we laughed at the fact he had uploaded a picture of it for her. I declined the chance to see the picture because I am a firm believer in the fact that if you have seen one you have seen them all. Anyway, the lady was having an issue with the behaviour of the man; she said something just wasn’t right with the way he was behaving. Immediately I assumed there was another woman, but that wasn’t the problem. She told me that for some odd reason he just knew everything she done, where she went and who she spoke with. It was blowing her mind and she didn’t know how he was doing it. They had just become engaged and he had bought her a really nice ring and I told her to immediately bin it. I didn’t tell her to dump his stalking spying ass; I told her to TP over to the store he bought the ring and buy a new one. The new one wouldn’t have the spy device he had cunningly placed in it and her problems would be over. The lesson in this story is if you think a lover has bugged you, the most obvious thing to do would be to get rid of them, but I suggest you just don’t mention it, replace the ring and drive them insane. I mean, it’s not as if they are going to mention it! I would like to add before I move on to the next topic that using spy equipment is against the Linden Lab Terms of Service.

My next topic would be the copy and pasting of conversations. EVERYBODY does it at some point in their SL day, whether it be because someone has said something hysterically funny and you want to show others, or because someone was being a complete wanker and you want to show others how hysterically funny it is. The copy and pasting of convos, WITHIN the second life game, WITHOUT the consent of another is a big no no. I have noticed some people write a kind of warning on their profiles saying they will be doing it should it be needed to be used against me. This type of warning is ok if you have a business in SL and you might need to file an AR or a DMCA on someone, but random avatars listen up. You aren’t allowed to do it, so you can’t show your friends, no matter what type of disclaimer you have added to your crappy self characterization. Should you still feel the need to have to do it, here is my expert advice. NEWSFLASH! Take a screenshot of the convo, copy and paste is soooo 2007.

Meeting new people and having fun is what SL is all about. It is not about forgetting about real life and coming on here and annoying the hell out of the normal funny people because you are sad that you haven’t achieved anything in the real word. Some of us really don’t give a damn, so don’t try to impress our pixels unless whatever it is you do you can insert a ‘LOL’ at the end of your sentences or you don’t mind us putting one at the end of ours when we talk about you being famous in this site. Men must always keep in mind that most of the women in SL are actually men and use voice changing software as well.

It would help immensely if LL would issue at statement at Help Island for new avatars not to accept the offer of free clothing or skins especially those made at Damiani. My friend Pompeja who owns Damiani, is having a hard time filing AR’S every time she sees someone wearing one. Skins aren’t free and they are usually NO TRANSFER. The same goes for hair and shoes. What many people fail to realise is that someone spent a lot of time making the FREE stuff you will be offered. SURPRISE! Some of it isn't FREE, it’s STOLEN, so help us all out on our war against content theft and copybotting and decline the stolen freebies. For experts like us, it’s easy to spot someone dripping in stolen stuff. Anti inspect  make me want to inspect you and shields don’t work with us, sorry. Rawly, I know can crack an anti inspect sheild in 3 seconds.

Gesture playing within SL is always fun for new people and I am brill friends with Blazin Aubret who is the purveyor of most of the funny Gestures you hear but don’t know where to get them. Follow this SLurl below to get all your Gestures and then you can annoy people in the clubs of SL. Even if you an old sl person TP over and to say Hi to Blazin, she’s very funny and is older than any sl person I know. She rezzed in 2005!!!!!
http://slurl.com/secondlife/Muism/139/70/26

Before I go I’d like to offer a bit of extra special advice. It’s especially for people who are easily drove insane and perhaps have been savvy enough to learn that you can have your offline messages sent to an email address, so you can read them on a phone. DON’T CLICK ANYTHING THAT SAYS SUB-SCRIBO-MATIC or HIPPO THINGY. If you are like me you will be driven insane with the messages and if you’re blonde you will forget where you joined and won’t have a LM to get back to click the board to get out of this contract you didn’t realise you signed up to. OOOP's Blazin has one, but its ok to join hers cause she gives ya free funny stuff.

Ok I’m off now, but stay posted because I have had a few hundred requests in the last week from people asking where we get all our fun huds and tricks, so I’ll be posting a report on the best of the best very soon.

Lots of Love



Natalie xx

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Wednesday, 3 February 2010
Playing Pixel Barbies Hot New Trend For Thugs




Perhaps I'm the only one who sees the humor in this pic, but I thought it would be a good reminder to keep your pics updated, especially if you edit your appearance regularly.

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Saturday, 30 January 2010
Crook Assists In Own Exposure



At the Ahern Welcome Center on Friday, January 29, JStevenson Oppenbaum was seen wearing a copybotted knit cap, stolen from Air Winx, who sells his creations under his "Argrace" label.

It was reported that two avatars were standing in close proximity to each other, and were giving obeservers the impression that they were both being controlled by the same person. The avatars had similarities that raised suspicions, and the female avatar was wearing an Argrace beanie.

Because the JStevenson Oppenbaum account was only two days old, and wearing a hat that a more experienced player would have, an observer inspected the hat.

The hat was discovered to be made by JStevenson Oppenbaum, a 2 day old account. The hat also still had the "Argrace" label on the side. An Abuse Report was filed against JStevenson Oppenbaum, for intellectual copywrite infringement/copybotting.

As of this writing, JStevenson Oppenbaum no longer comes up in search under the "People" tab, an indication that an account has been suspended or terminated by LL.

Copybotting has become so commonplace in SL that writing about it no longer seems to surprise or shock anybody. The real world is flooded with counterfeit merchandise. While there may never be an end to flea market designer goods, the fake products also serve to grow the brand and fuel the desire for the genuine articles. I wrote this article thinking, "What a tired subject. Why bother?" I bothered because people need to know that filing the Abuse Reports do result in action. The copybotters probably have more than one account, so it is probably futile to report them, but why not give them back a little of their own grief?
For anyone who loves hunting, and could use a break once in a while to go and do something that is both devious and productive, finding and reporting copybotters at mainland welcome centers can be a fun game, especially when the crook leaves the designer labels on the merchandise.


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Sunday, 24 January 2010
Two Decades And Ain't Banned Yet.




Here we are, welcome to the new decade. Now that we've all spanned two decades of virtual SLives, what kinds of things do we have to look forward to in the future? Next month will be the SL Pro conference, where they will be having conferences on all sorts of things that would be interesting to anyone who is serious about their businesses in SL. Recent financial reports also indicate that the SL economy continues to grow despite RL economic conditions, giving people hope that the virtual world will continue to be a viable source of alternative income for many.

If you believe in evolution, then you are probably expecting more of the same, with improvements here and there, and hopefully some things will finally die off. I think we are all ready for bling to die off, but what I accidentally found recently might be a cool replacement for bling. Below are the "Glam Headphones" from Cutemurder.

You know how textures flash when you have overlapping prims? In this case, I think it's a case of overlapping prims, with slightly offset textures, that create a dazzling, sparkling effect like diamonds under light. Despite the fact that Cutemurder officially makes women's stuff, I think the sparkly glam headphones look great for either sex, and are a must see for anyone who loves creating sparkly things.




This year, I'm doing my part to be reduce my carbon footprint and do more recycling. This includes wearing older, more classic clothes, such as this "Hick Ringer" from Renegade, and Muism's "Vintage Cuffed" jeans, but maybe updating them with some cool new accessories. My current favorite watch is from Chronokit. It looks amazing, has all kinds of dials and stuft that move, has a cool hud, and even includes "checking my watch" poses and clock gongs on the hours. Chronokit has other stuff like chairs, tables, and clocks, so go take a look if you need some cool looking odds and ends.

Finally, no man or woman should ever let their shoe collection lag, recession or not. Fortunately, Hoorenbeek makes it easy to stay stylish without feeling guilty about being indulgent. They have all kinds of new stuff, from clothes to shoes to other accessories. It's all top quality, and they are offering at least one color of most of their shoes for sale at L$200 a pair. That's right, L$200 for the latest shoes from Hoorenbeek.

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Thursday, 21 January 2010
WHAT NATALIE DID NEXT..............



A CURE FOR A SLINWORLDTODAY ADDICTION


We have decided that due to demand from our readers and friends that we would have to come back and stir things up a bit. Before I start I’d like to wish you all a happy new year and a belated happy Halloween cause I never did finish that, did I?



It has amazed us and made us laugh, the amount of people who claim to hate us with a passion, that have logged into to read this site every single day since we went on our break. They did this even though there wasn’t anything new here to read. We have decided to call it the SLIWT addiction. It’s not an addiction to everyone though, only to those who hate us and deny coming to it.

I’d like to clarify something that might be blowing a few peoples minds. If you have a friend who claims they can’t seem to read this web page and find they are being redirected to another destination on the internet, chances are I am responsible for it. I know all the cry-babies who read this site and I know all those who have addictions to it, so I decided to help a few of you out and just ban you from looking at it because you were getting on my nerves with your shit. They are the people who claim never to read what we write and yet can’t help logging in at least 3 times a day to see if we have wrote anything new. Some addicts have even done this during their sl nuptials!!! Imagine that, you would think they would have better things to be doing. Anyway, If you know of anyone who has been locked out and who doesn’t know why, there is a good chance it may be a mistake, because even someone perfect like me makes mistakes, although not often. It’s very simple, all they have to do is contact either Rawly or myself and we will unban you.



There are a few addicts I have allowed to continue reading this page, but not because I like the people but because I am just downright evil. If you happen to be one of those people who perhaps have an addiction to SLIWT or just enjoy hanging on our every word that’s brill, but don’t ever deny that you read this page in public, especially if you have recently done something to make me hate your guts.




Recently it has been brought to my attention that a certain someone, who to my knowledge is very, very addicted to reading SLIWT, has begun to strenuously deny reading. The person in question has always had trouble telling the truth and remembering stuff, so with hindsight of this, I took a screenshot in my stat counter of every single hit they ever made to this site. There is a folder on my desktop full of little pictures with dates, times and the length of your visit. There is quite a collection of them now and they will come in handy for Rawlys “Where are they now?” column he’s thinking of doing. There is nothing like a screenshot of the Stat counter to jog a memory of even the most forgetful avatar.
Ok, let me fill you all in on what it was like leading a quiet and calm Second Life. I went out and met lots of new friends, learned a few lessons taught by a very good teacher (you know who you are) learned a lot about who I was (again you know who you are). I went to lots of clubs( /me yawns), played loads of tricks on people who were using the stupid Emerald Hud thing that tells you people are looking at your profile (yeah that was me making up stuff for your screen) and so on and so forth. I spent time with my older close friends who seemed to be very worried about my quietness and now normal behaviour. One even cared about me so much and because he didn’t get my full attention he removed me from his friends list. He done a lot more than that, but it isn’t for the pages of this site and it was unforgivable.



I soon realised that I was living my second life the way people live in real life and I am not here to fill a gap or make up for anything I can’t be in my rl. Normality in pixels was boring and wasn’t for me, but at least I gave it a shot for a few months.
 I did meet a lot of fun people along my quiet normal adventure during these last few months. Most were new people on the first rush of SL addiction and to be around people experiencing that initial buzz we all remember so well was refreshing for one who’s second life has been anything but normal. I loved sitting listening to their stories of heartbreak, meeting their first sl love and of course to all the drama that seemed to hit everyone at some point. I gave advice to lots of them and showed them how to do new things. One thing I didn’t do was tell them that for the last 3 years of my sl I had put my second life into words for the amusement of others. I didn’t mention this site to them, but it wasn’t long until they mentioned it to me.



It’s hard to hide who you are when you have spent all your time being an open book. That is another thing I have saw happening and it bothered me. I have saw people give up things they really want and know they are destined to have because they can’t be honest with themselves. I have sat and watched people living sl like it was some kind of Life skill. I realised I am who I am, this is what I do here. Looking at my stat counter its obvious  that love me or hate me some of you can’t stay away from reading me. Oh and you, yes you, I probably have already got the screenshot of this hit aswell.



 I’ll be back real soon with a new column and I’ll get Rawly to get writing as well.



Lots of Love

Natalie xx



P.S Its nice to be back .........................



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Saturday, 24 October 2009
EXCLUSIVE EVENTS




The Kmadd boys will be showcasing the designs of Shinichi Mathy during two shows that will take place today on the Kmadd event sim. If you have never been to one of these shows, you should, the Kmadd Boys make sure everyone is made to feel welcome. Not only will you get the chance to see the fabulous creations in the show but it is a great place to be a bit nosey, profile surf and you could also perv the hawt Kmadd models.




Tomorrow is just as exciting, only this one has a twist of Halloween thrown in. Damiani are having a Halloween Party to launch their new sim. I am a good friend of Pompeja, owner of Damiani so I can assure you that you will get a good laugh at this party. The party has been organised by the Studio Red Team who are Second Life’s Event experts, so you won’t want to miss this.



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Wednesday, 21 October 2009
PUT SOME BOUNCE INTO YOUR SECOND LIFE




I hadn't a clue what banner to use for this much sought after piece of information, but I couldn't decide what to do. Well anyway, at last weekends Studio Red Halloween Event a lot of jokes were flying about the tittie bouncing thing you will have all seen in the last columns video. I happened to mention that I knew the secret to bouncing breasts and everyone Lol'd. I could hear the brains ticking and I just knew a lot of people were thinking I was mucking about. After they LOL'd and thought, the IM started asking if I really knew or if I was joking and it hasnt stopped this week.

Ok, for all you chicks(or guys who dress up as chicks or guys who just want to get off looking at your female alt) who want to put some bounce into your breasts, please follow the settings below in your Emerald Viewer. It would be brill if you could let me know how you all get on with this.

Breast MassL 100


Breast rebound: 1

Breast Max vel: 100

Breast friction: 1

Breast Z influence: ( doesnt work)

Breast min vel: 1
 
I would personally like to thank my good friend Connie (Sec) Arida for perfecting these settings and making me laugh so much I nearly fell off my seat. Connie and I will be working on some more fun settings soon so stay tuned.

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Wednesday, 14 October 2009
WHAT NATALIE DID NEXT......



THE ATTRACTION

I have found that some of us attract different types of people and attention. I once asked Rawly why I attracted some of the people who approached me and he told me quite seriously that he was sure he saw a big sign some place saying “If you’re a total dork, IM Natalie Niven”. I laughed, but I think he might be right, because I just seem to attract the crazies of the grid. Now that my SL is far more settled, I figured I couldn’t live without the mental people, so I went out to find some. Surely I can have the best of both worlds?

I was stopped while out shopping tonight by a few SLIWT readers and they commented on my new look. I have ditched my blonde locks, went to the other extreme and went jet black. A blonde having more fun is a bit overrated, believe me, I know this. People really do assume you are stupid, but that has never really bothered me.
 This year I feel I have been pre occupied with dealing with other bits of me and I forgot what I was all about. I forgot about my craziness and how I had this uncanny ability to embrace chaos. I have mentioned before that there is someone very special in my SL now and it was this that got me thinking about if it mattered that my avatar was beautiful. You see, when I first met him, we exchanged a few smart mouthed jokes and then never saw each other’s avatars for 6 months. I did my slife, he did his and yet we still spoke every day. I looked around me while out and about, at all the happy couples and I wondered if they are really in love with each other’s minds or is it just the beautiful pixels?



I decided to experiment on whether avatar appearance attracts different types of people. I know that the tag above your head does because I was in an alt account of mine a few weeks ago and a lady approached me. She was very well dressed and offered me the chance to have a “beautiful” avatar just like hers. She told me she was a famous avatar on her “other” account and that she liked to go into this one to “help” new SL residents become beautiful. All I had to do was deposit $200L  to her and I could have a skin like hers. I played with her for about 10mins and then I issued the “Surprise, Guess who my other account is?” She soon climbed down from her “I am famous” soapbox when I called her from Natalie’s account. In exchange for her anonymity she gave me the name of the man who supplies her with the skins. I was very shocked when I looked him up, because he wasn’t an alt and he had some well known models detailed in his picks as BFF. No doubt you will be reading all about it soon.



I thought I’d just change my hair colour to see if it made a difference before making any drastic changes. So off I went, with my new black tresses to see if this would make a difference in my SL.



I discovered that not all people read profiles. I was standing in a hair store last night when I received an IM. It was one of those very random IMs from a person who wanted to tell me I had nice legs. I cammed around to see the person who was that was saying this and couldn’t see anyone. Then I cammed down and sitting at my feet, was what I can only describe as a replica of the dog from The Perishers. I wondered if perhaps he had asked all the female legs in this store if he could lick them or if he had any luck with anyone else when asking if he could insert his muzzle up their skirt. I wondered if it was just me, so I asked him.


He said that for some reason he just thought that I looked like id be up for it and that I had the nicest most lickable legs. Ok now, is it just me, or do some people actually participate in sexual activity with cute SL dogs? He told me that he was doing a "survey" and that my help in this "survey" would help him understand "interspecies survival". He said all I had to do was get naked and let him, well ya know, do what animals do and that this would be part of the survey. I had to decline the chance to part take in such an experiment because we had a conflict of interest on ethics of it and I didn’t see how it was a survey. He saw it as anthropology and I saw it as a pervert looking to have a wank. Well I call it as I see it, there is no point in dressing up that word when the littlest hobo is at your feet telling you he has a big giant cock. There really is something about a cartoon dog, showing you his SL penis (that was a replica of a rl penis btw), in a busy hair shop. I mean I am all for the laughs and the theory that there is only one thing worse than being talked about and that is not being talked about, but being photographed beside a dog with a hard on, is a bit too much even for me.



Engaging in sexual activity with an animal, cartoon or otherwise is something I can’t get my head around and why someone would want to do it is just plain crazy. I did laugh at the thought of my new guy asking me what I had been up to while he has been away and me saying, “Well this Old English Sheep dog asked me for sex last night in a hair shop, but apart from that nothing much”. I mean how many men in SL get to come home to a woman like me. /me winks, I still got it, Alsatians the lot!



Sadly though, my own experiment didn’t go quite as I planned, as the colouring on my hair made no difference to a species that was eye level with my knees. I ditched my dark locks and went back to being blonde, although I will carry on with this fun experiment.



I looked down my friend list last night and I wondered what I gave to some of the people in the way of friendship and wondered how they perceived me. I picked out a few people who are as nutty as me and realised that certain types of people are just attracted to others who are like them. It’s not because of hair colour and I am convinced there must be something that matches avatars together because we will laugh and behave better if we meet.
I am going to give you all a look into the mind of a very well known avatar, that I love with all my heart. She and I have known each other for a very long time and both of us have a love for experimenting and researching people. We also have a hate for women who aren’t real and who can’t relax in this pixelated world we call our Second Home.
Ladies and gentlemen let me introduce Janey. She the sister of my very good friend and famous SL Photographer Connie Arida (Connie Sec on Flickr). Connie sent me the vid and I totally cracked up. This was a good insight into how lots of us live and spend our time. Thanks Hun.


For all the women who wonder what the other types of women do to pass their time in SL, since we aren’t walking the fashion runways, there ya have it. Thanks Connie and Janey, you summed us up beautifully, and that puts an end to them all saying we arent creative.

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Monday, 12 October 2009
TRICK OR TREAT



 
It’s time to get things back on track and get back to collecting screams on the Scare-a-thon. It’s not like I got completely of track, as I am very sure I made someone scream during this last week.
Anyway, I decided to go shopping and see what was on sale this year that would be different from all the other years.
Before I went shopping I went to play catch up with some of the boys who I haven’t seen in a while.
Rocco was first to be a victim. Although it was funny, I kind of knew he had allowed me to animate his avatar because he knew no one else would. Thanks Hun.
Deforming or watching someone go head first into the ground just doesn’t get the same laugh as it did back when Rawly and I discovered those tricks back in 2007. Most people know us now, so chances are if I try to animate their avatar they run. Rawly was famous for using the deformer to death back during the first Scare-a-thon, and tricked many people we knew with it, including me. You would think I would know better, knowing that Rawly isn’t an affectionate avatar. I don’t why I continuously fell for his wanting to hug my avatar.
I sighed, and decided that the deformer was pretty much played out, so I was delighted to find this....




A Magic Cauldron.

"OOOOOO, what’s that?” I hear you all say. Well it’s pretty much what it says on the tin, it’s a Magic Cauldron that does magic stuff. In my close inner circle of friends I am known for my addiction of buying stupid fun stuff. If its pointless, you can bet I have it although its probably broken into a million bits. Most won’t be surprised that I didn’t hesitate to add this to my collection of funables and was soon skipping home with my new purchase. I have lost count of how many times I have heard “You not playing with that in here”, but this time it was different.No one was home./me rubs hands and laughs an evil Halloween type laugh.
There is a man I am seeing at the moment, who is away from SL this week, and I don’t know if he realises what he is letting himself in for. Scare-a-thon time probably wasn’t the best time to begin to truly get to know someone like me or for me to make an impression on someone, but I suppose it will make or break him. If he can last past Halloween with me, it was meant to be.

HAHA, well, this year it’s different and rather than mope about that I would have to play tricks on my own, I saw the advantage of Rawly not being here. /me giggles




I took my new Magic Cauldron to his new sim to see what type of laughs I could get out of this new toy. Rawly if your reading, Happy Halloween darlin. I miss you, SL at Halloween isn’t the same without you and I promise I won’t break anything. Gregster Kidd misses you deforming him as well.

Ok, once I rezzed the cauldron, recipe board and ingredient shelf, the next thing I should have done was read the instructions. I am not known for my love of instruction manuals, so I skimmed over them and got straight into cooking up a few potions. I soon realised, by the amount of green steam, that I should really go back and read the instructions.


It wasn’t hard to get the hang off, although I did make a few mistakes but you will get a message to tell you if you GOOF up. It’s all about mixing the ingredients and following the recipe instructions as directed. If you’re a fan of the Magic Bakery in SL this is your type of toy. It comes with lots of fun spells.






The first potion I made that worked, was the shrinking spell. OOOOOO what does this do? Well, basically it shrinks you when you drink the concoction. This toy is brilliant although when I sent a potion to Willilicious Georgette to drink he said,



[18:24] Willilicious Georgette: LOL



[18:24] Willilicious Georgette: cute



[18:24] Willilicious Georgette: I went small



I’ll have to try harder to get him into the spirit of Halloween.

http://slurl.com/secondlife/Neum/166/24/24 click here to start cooking



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Saturday, 10 October 2009
FINALLY......THE ADMISSION




For all of you who are true fans of SLIWT I love ya’s. For those who loathe me, yet can’t keep away or stop yourselves from hanging on my every word by logging in here every day, I have something to explain, because some people just aren’t getting me at all.
Last night I had a note card dropped on me. It was a copy of an email sent by a representative from Make –a-Wish, with the full total of money raised and sent. The person who dropped it thought they were showing me something I didn’t already know. Surely there are a few people who would know I am just not that stupid. I will admit, I didnt think id have saw what I saw so quickly. I had estimated a week for it, especially when my comments box was filling up with contact numbers.

I had to sit back and take it all in, but not that I was shocked the money had been sent to MAW, because I knew this a long time ago. I went back and read my article again, to try and work out why some people were confused by it. I tried to understand why some people would think for one millisecond, that I would have let someone get away with not giving over money to a charity if I knew about it in April or May. Do some of you really think I wouldn’t have been checking that out? Let me just say that I already knew the money had made its way to MAW. I knew the dates it was sent and I knew the amounts. If it hadn’t been sent, believe me, you would have been reading all about it in May not October.
I was surprised by how the article had divided people and how people had read it differently to others. Some assumed, it was a direct attack on Ruby, and they saw me accusing her of theft. Some saw it how it was intended to be seen, but for those who didn’t I will try to explain. I will be using excerpts from my previous column as guidelines, for all of you who struggle with being able to keep up.

She detailed that an arrangement was in place, that the money would go to the charity in 3 lump sums. ONE SUM ONLY of $2500USD had been sent and Ruby told me that the other TWO sums would be sent as soon as possible and that all would be documented.”  
Most people know me by now, so most will know that I wouldn’t have let this drop without following up and making sure that the rest of the money made its way to its intended destination. So writing an article and THEN investigating wouldn’t have even been my style. I had no doubt that Ruby would send the rest of the money to MAW, as Ruby isn’t stupid and I knew she knew fine well I would be checking. This is why she didn’t document the final transfers on her Flickr. She would have rather died than show it. This would have meant her feeling like she was somehow being forced to do so. As long as it was sent, I really didn’t care about Ruby’s diva attitude issues, it was not my concern. As for finding out how much was actually raised, this proved to be an impossible task-even for me. With no donation transactions having been kept, there would never be a way to find out. I asked a few people if the total of approx 7kusd was sufficient and it was agreed all was as it should be. So the matter was dropped.  
Dishing out divaesque attitude for 4 months will do nothing for your reputation, especially when a simple few transaction screenshots would have been all it took.”
 
There is something in some people that makes them too proud sometimes to admit they are wrong, have behaved wrongly or misjudged something. It’s that whole ‘why should I show people’ attitude that caused this whole mess in the first place. Just to let you all see how I see this let me ask you all a question. If you were responsible for making sure money made its way to a charity, would you behave like a diva and just totally refuse to answer questions until forced to? More importantly, would you shame your own name, when you know you haven’t done anything wrong for the sake of your Pride? Would you be issuing others with phone numbers of a charity, to check your credibility and reputation for themselves, when you have the information they require the whole time?  
“My agenda was to make sure that the money made its way to the charity it was intended for.”
 
When I was contacted by a lot of concerned residents back in late March of this year, I overlooked the fact that they said Ruby was a bit of a bitch. That didn’t concern me, as I would never judge someone who I didn’t know; my main focus was on the charity money, which appeared very blatantly to be missing. People don’t realise how often I help people without a story coming out of it. Believe me, if anyone can find $7k in missing money or get answers from someone who is being difficult, it would be me.

For all of you who still assume I had another agenda, ask yourselves why I didn’t write about it at the time back in March?

“I could tell why so many people had hit a brick wall with Ruby while trying to get information, because she really didn’t see what the big deal was.”
 
As I mentioned before, there was people who had donated lots of money and couldn’t obtain receipts that Ruby was supposed to be supplying. I don’t know if it’s just me and how I think, but I am sure someone somewhere will be asking how those people found out the money wasn’t at MAW.

Between the event in December of 2008 and February of 2009, people had begun wondering about their receipts and of course began to ask Ruby for them. Messages where ignored and people who had donated money got treated like shit. Sometimes when this happens intelligent individuals think outside of the box and they take matters into their own hands. To obtain receipts for their donations, they contacted MAW themselves, only to be told that no money had been received. Now, what would you do if you heard this? All hell broke loose and eventually on March 27th the first payment was sent. Did you read about here? No, you didn’t.




To blame me or anyone else for tarnishing a reputation, is very bizarre when you look at the facts or the length of time this was all kept quiet for really. I much prefer to see how much rope a person needs to hang themselves than give them 15 mins here. Being professional, upfront about transaction problems and conversing with people would have been enough save a reputation. 
 
My plan was working just how I wanted it to work......”





“I decided that rather than contact Ruby directly, I was going to post something that would get Ruby to contact me directly.”




“I had just psychologically played with her.....”


For all of you who misunderstood my last article, I hope now you understand what it was all about and you see the hidden purpose of it. I knew the whole time that Ruby held the information that most wanted. I knew all the money had reached MAW. It was when I heard she was still refusing to give information about whether or not the remainder of the money had been sent that I got frustrated. I couldn’t believe she hadn’t learned her lesson first time around.

It’s true that some people need to gentle manipulation to give up info but sometimes it doesn’t work, and then a more extreme measure is needed. Some people need to be psychologically  dragged of their imaginary soapbox, by the back of the neck and virtually slapped until they do. Its extreme I know, but it works.
As I said before some don’t like to admit flaws or faults. They don’t like being forced to do something and that is why you all saw the “Why should I?” or the very schoolgirl-esque “I don’t have to explain myself to anyone” tantrum. Or the “Phone this number and find out yourselves” statement. I’d much rather someone stood up and showed us themselves and that is exactly what happened, and that is what I got. Ruby showed the information herself and that is something she would have probably died rather than do.


It’s widely known in many circles that Ruby doesn’t like me much and slag’s me off when she gets the chance. She doesn’t realise that most people tell me and then ask me why someone could loathe me so much and yet when they are asked why, Ruby says “Just because...”


Do I need to say anything more on that? I’d hate me too. At least now everyone will know why. Being forced to do something twice, without realising you are doing it, by the same person must sting, but it had to be done.


“Let it be known that if you are responsible for large amounts of charity money and you refuse to explain or show the where-about of that money, it is inevitable that people will assume the worst. Dishing out divaesque attitude for 4 months will do nothing for your reputation, especially when a simple few transaction screenshots would have been all it took.”


I rest my case.

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